Going Back

I'm going back to my original semi-vegetarian state.  Still in the thinking phases, I know I want to take red meat and pork back out of the equation and reinsert more fruits and veggies.  These last few months have been heavy on the simple and light on the healthy.  I am going to flip that.  The problem is going to be breaking free of the ease my husband sees in the process of dumping a bunch of crap into a slow cooker on Sunday and eating off it all week.

Do I announce my intentions and tell him he's free to eat what he wants, I'm not cooking it?

Do I continue to cook his unhealthy food alongside my semi-vegetarian foods?

I don't know yet.

Ultimately, I'm tired of feeling obligated to eat easy or what he likes because I don't want to fool with him.  If I didn't have to worry with him, I know I could come home each night, throw a salad on a plate cook up some fish or shrimp and have that be it.

The root of the problem appears to be not wanting to fool with him.  I'm not too tired to cook healthy or be healthy, I'm tired of him.  I'm tired of feeling obligated to him and his evenings and his foods. 

What am I supposed to do when all that stuff is how he feels loved?

You Should Be Thankful

Tonight my husband was emptying the dishwasher.  I caught him about to nest pots that were close in size.  I'd asked him not to do that in the past, so I made a point of telling him not to do what I'd already made of point of telling him not to do.  He made some sort of stoneage grunt when he bent over to put the pots away under the sink.

I heard him start to say I should be thankful.  Thankful for what, that you emptied the dishwasher?  Ummm, gee, thanks, but no thanks.  You'd have to do that anyway.

My dilemma in all this is that I don't feel like saying thank you anymore for something that he would have to do himself.  I dont' feel like saying "Thank You for emptying the dishwasher, thank you for folding the clothes, thank you for vacuuming. . ."

I hate that nerve.  When somebody hits it, I got blind.

So should I be thankful he does what he does because he'd have to do it if he lived alone, or am I to be thankful he does anything?  Like I should be thanful he doesn't stop at a bar and drink his paycheck away on the way home from work.  I'm afraid I wouldn't be married or stay married to a drunk, so why should I have to be thankful to someone for doing what he'd have to do anyway.

Moral Dilemma 5: Agree to Agree

Co-workers and bosses that either don't carry their weight or are unaware of day to day protocol, can be difficult to tolerate--if not downright maddening.  Sometimes it's just easier if they aren't around.  When a coworker or boss returns from a day out or a vacation and makes the comment that things seem to run smoother or "more work gets done" when they are not present, what do you do?  Agree, disagree or bite your tongue?

That's all you get, so have fun and  feel free to comment.

Moral Dilemma Day #4: To Speak or Not to Speak

So the other day two little girls were in the road beside my house.  Both little girls were barefoot and lived about three house down.  So maybe a good 150 to 200 feet away?  One was on a bicycle that was too large for her and the other, much younger was having a hard time walking on the hot asphalt.  There was a great deal of screaming, crying and general show of unbridled emotion.  I watched unseen from my bathroom window for a little while until I decided to go outside and pretended to turn off the water that was turned on my trees.  By this time, the younger of the two girls was sitting in the grass at the edge of my yard crying without shame and the older had headed back to her house on her oversized bicycle.  I know what I did, what would you do?

Well, that's all you get. Have fun, and feel free to comment.

Moral Dilemma Day #3: Finding The Answers

Ah, the dreaded "answers in the back of the book".  Seems the 21st Century has a new spin.  The "answers online".  Here's the scenario:  You are cruising a website for help on a school or work project, then there it is: a perfect example.  Word for word, laid out and described in audio/video format.  Do you use it?  If so, do you credit the source, or make enough changes to claim it as your own?

That's all you get, so have fun and feel free to leave comments.

Moral Dilemma Day #2: Do You Peek?

I'll come clean here.  I'm picky about my food.  I will eat just about anything, but given the choice, I'd rather cook it myself.  I'd rather plate it and serve it the way I want it.  So here's the dilemma:

You're at a special person's home.  It's a casual day together.  He/she excitedly offers lunch and disappears to the kitchen to "whip up something great".  When he/she returns, the "something great" is of the sandwich persusasion, so the contents is well-hidden between the bread.  You know your friend doesn't like the same things you do.  What do you do?

That's all you get, so have a good time and feel free to post your comments.

Moral Dilemma Day #1: When You Lose Confidence in a Confidant

What would you do?

You're pretty sure the long-term friend you've been confiding in concerning a broken and ending relationship is talking to the other member of the relationship and telling him/her everything you've said.  Consequently, a reconciliation you aren't sure you wanted is on the wind.

This is all you get, so have fun and feel free to post comments.